I recently traveled back home to Ghana with my siblings for our mother’s funeral, and as soon as we returned to the States, we alerted this godly woman next to me of our arrival. She was filled with excitement on the phone and told us she’s preparing food for us, so we shouldn’t worry ourselves with cooking. In less than an hour, she was at our door with food (Jollof rice, grilled chicken, and soup). She was so happy to see us back home; through her hugs and word. As usual, she insisted I get something to eat when everyone had a plate except me. I always get emotional when someone shows us such kindness because those we consider family doesn’t show us this kindness.
A lot has been said about family and what it represents. The one I find very fitting and honorable is a definition given by (Surana, 2020): “A family is a group of people who have each other’s back and are willing to go to the ends of the earth to bring a smile to the others’ face.” Call it a true family or a real family—the actual family definition is the “sense of loyalty, selflessness, love and genuine care and concern for the others.”
She continued to write that a family can mean anyone who gives you that comforting feeling of familiarity (Surana, 2020). Family is the group of people who you know accepts you for you. You feel comfortable, safe, unique, that you matter, and that your voice matters.
According to Surana (2020), a family can make you happy as soon as you see them. They are the ones that stand by you through thick and thin. They are your entire support system. Moreover, keep you going forward in life
A family doesn’t necessarily mean your parents, your siblings, or your immediate blood relatives. Family can mean your best friends, your classmates, your teachers, your pet, or even that one person you always wave to at your local coffee shop. “The true definition of family lies not in blood relations, but it is measured in the amount of love and respect people hold for each other” (Surana, 2020).
I couldn’t agree with Surana (2020) when she writes: “it is difficult to find people who want the best for you without any ulterior motives.” People can appear to be helpful to you, but their intentions may be to exploit something from you. However, once you do find someone with a sacred heart, make sure you fight for them to stay no matter what.
“There will be hurdles along the way and huge fights where your relationship may seem too fragile to hold on to. But remember that overcoming these hurdles together will only strengthen your ties. After all,
the true meaning and definition of the family lie in how
much you care for one another” (Surana, 2020).
My mom once said she hopes that someday someone will extend the kindness she shows to others to her children•••Well, mother, you can certainly rest; our good Lord heard your prayers, He listened to your cry—